Not sure if this qualifies as piecing or not...

[4luv]

Trent didn't know you had a thread over here but that is such a nice gesture of getting wife's ring replaced. Women love thoughtful things like that...well i do at least!

good luck with the MC.

[TrentC]

I have the ring back, and it is repaired.

I'm waiting until she's in a better mood -- she's not been feeling well this week and work has been stressful this week -- to give it back to her.

[TrentC]

I gave her the ring this weekend, after we got back from a nice lunch. I figured if I gave it to her while we were at lunch, she'd never accept an invitation to go out eating again.

She thanked me for the ring, and I told her that if it gets broken again, tell me and I'll get it fixed again. And that when she is ready, I want her to wear it again.

She's not wearing it. But it is setting right next to the monitor of her computer at home.

[williaij]

Trent,

Retro is an amazing experience. I only wish I was in a different place when we went. I didn't read if you are going or not. I would highly recommend it. Don't want to give anything away but it is very powerful and I am not an ultra religious type.

What a thoughtful gesture in getting your W's ring repaired.

[TrentC]

I want to go; I've mentioned it to her before, but not by name.

We have a MC session on Wednesday, so I want to bring it up then.

[motherof3]

Trent,

How did the MC go?

Mo3

[TrentC]

A good start. My wife was pretty positive about it, even though discussing her private life is not one of her favorite things to do.

We kinda started at the beginning, and the MC gave us a little bit of homework to work on for next week.

[TrentC]

I don't have a lot to say because I'm still processing.

The hardest part was hearing my wife say that she has no romantic feelings for me right now. I know that's the case, but I thought things were starting to heal, if slowly.

She's still a good person and a good friend, but we both agree that we do not want to be "roommates for life".

The MC sounded like he had a good handle on things so far. He suggested that my wife be evaluated for low-level depression relating to the surgery she had -- physical pain and discomfort can trigger depression, apparently -- and she agreed. A breakthrough, as I've asked her to be evaluated several times, to great resistance.

And on my part, I have apologized several times for my role in getting our family and friends tangled up in this; the MC asked me if I would be willing to put it into writing, and I agreed.

[smith18]

Things sound optimistic Trent.

In regards to the apology...how sorry are you really? Do you think exposing to her mother helped put a stopper on the EA continuing? Would you do it again if you could go back in time?

I understand why you told her mother and I did the same thing. I was desperate and thought friends and family could talk some sense into her. It may be that was some of the reason why my W asked for another chance. She may have wanted to try and "save face" with those that knew.

Have you been in touch with Goldeylox in the last couple days? I will try to call her tonight and see how she is doing.

[TrentC]

I have not talked to Goldeylox.

It's not about exposing the EA; it's about discussing the details of how we are doing with friends and family.

She doesn't know about this site -- and even if she did, we are psuedo-anonymous. I wouldn't know you if I bumped into you at the store or not. I also have a contact through my church that I can have confidential conversations with; she doesn't have a problem with that. And of course, there is my IC.

But she feels like there isn't a person around who who doesn't know what is going on; which isn't true, but she assumes that people are talking about her even when they are not.