H suddenly moved out 10 days ago...I'm devastated

[flowmom]

Thanks CityGirl, you make good points. I know that removing the financial burden wouldn't solve the problems, but I'm concerned that he doesn't have the breathing space to do some self-care and get grounded. I think he had a nervous breakdown at Xmas, and had a lot of intense symptoms (severe insomnia, and he would start sweating or shaking if I approached him physically...but not in a sexual way).

I don't know how to manage the patience piece. I feel like someone just stole my life and my dreams and it's really hard to not take action and DO something.

I'm nervous about tonight. He saw a psychologist last night individually in preparation for us meeting with her jointly to develop a coparenting plan (I'll be seeing her individually as well). I'm worried that she might have pushed for reconciliation/counselling and that he might run from her/the process. Then he'll be pushing for formal mediation with me, as he has been since day one due to the advice of a very helpful <sarcasm> former family law attorney friend.

I miss him. I wish I could have a second chance.