I have to pick up my little one so I will be back to go over your post - I wanted to let you know he is 14 years old, taller then my 5'10 and stronger then me...I will bb soon - Thanks for the point of view from a man.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Easier said then done - He follows zero rules that I set - He is now grounded from everything (phone, mall, computer, friends etc...Home and School - Nothing else) -
Bottom line is he doesn't care what I do -
He is pushing and pushing until I give in and allow him to go live with his Dad.
Which I may add is not an option.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Serenity, thanks so much for stopping by my thread to give me encouragement. I'm starting to read your thread and agree... many similarities. I'm at the same point... I've got the D paperwork almost ready and I'm praying for a sign to go ahead. I hope I'm doing God's will.
I want to read your whole thread... will be back later. Thanks so much again...
--Day by Day
M40, H39 M17 T20 D13, S12 H moved out 05/09 D filed 1/10
Serenity, I took a few days off, too. Just read latest on your S. You mentioned a couple of times that your son has a number of excellent, involved mentors. Time to call them in ASAP. He needs to hear from them NOW...in no uncertain terms, imo.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Just received a phone call from oldest S - Apparently he is with my H and has been for the past few hours...Now on the way to spend the night with him...
I got H on the phone and let him know in no uncertain terms was this acceptable - No warning, no phone call - Nothing...
I asked him about seeing the little one - Nope...In a few weeks...
I reminded him kindly about being consistent and he says he is doing the best he can...
I let him know he can at least call the little one every few days to say hi and he says he doesn't have the number - BS - I told him about the cursing, threats and prescription meds - Basically all that has happened the last week...
I asked him if she was there because if so he could turn the car around and bring son home - He says no she isn't and he doesn't know where she is...
He started getting angry at me and then told me he doesn't want to talk to me and gave the phone to son...
So now I sit in tears again, wondering why I even care because it is obvious I am never going to be good enough and I didn't do anything wrong...
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Please don't lose the perspective that H's choices are HIS and have nothing to do with you. You are amazing, you are strong! I am praying for you my friend.