It's sad though, because even now S13 is wanting to include W in our activities. He's plainly had a plan to reunite us this entire time.
Express your feelings and validate your kids.
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We were planning a ski trip for this weekend, but now I'm having to rethink the cost of it
Go and enjoy every minute.
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. I told both the kids that I was looking for a lower cost alternative,
"I decided we are still going. We have enough money to cover this trip."
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and S13 asked if maybe Mom would pitch in if we invited her. sigh.
Yes this is tough.
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D17 said she is gonna be mad at mom for at least a little while
she has every right to be angry. Validate her anger.
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I told her to be patient, and that there would be time in the future for her to talk about these things, and that her relationship with her mom was very important to me.
Nice. I have changed my parenting style with my kids. I follow "parenting with love and logic" advise. Most of the time I give my kids several choices. I ask questions.
"I can see that you are angry. Do you think it would be better to argue with your mom now, or wait till you calm down when you can talk to her about why you are angry?"
Just my 2 cents
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
