Ups and Downs

[givingitmyall]

Because of this:

I'm at a point where a life together would be nice, but it is no longer necessary. We'll sees where it goes.

You are simply dead wrong about this:

I dont really feel qualified to give advice, as I have not been successful in my own sitch.

If you have improved yourself and haved saved yourself, you ARE a success. Saving the M has never been the definition of success around here.

[Butterfly1]

EB - you are keeping your boundaries up really well. And she definitely is not sure she is doing the right thing. Give it time. Watch and wait. What else can we do?

I'm so glad you're ok - I've been thinking of you!

[Energizer Bunny]

Thanks Tristan's, GIMA, and Hope. I appreciate you all and need to get backup to speed with how you all are. I hope all is well.

[givingitmyall]

Thanks Tristan's, GIMA, and Hope. I appreciate you all and need to get backup to speed with how you all are. I hope all is well.

Things with my M are, well, not good. Me, I'm handling it.

[Energizer Bunny]

Gina - the last I saw was shortly after she had you served. My heart really went/goes out to you. Ill have to catch up tonight.

I'm glad to see that you're handling it.

Just so you know, it's likely that she will move out and still not be able to find what she is looking for. I think my W may be going through that. She turned "Getting out" into her holy Grail of happiness so there was no way it can live up to her expectadions. That's just my viewpoint. I could be all wet.

Even if she feels that she made a mistake, i dont know if she could ever admit it after a year of fighting for "her freedom." I wonder if I would want her back if the opportunity came anyway.

There's one possible scenario for your future.

[givingitmyall]

EB,

She refuses to move out of "her" house as do I. So, we have a stand off there.

The rest will sort itself out.

[Energizer Bunny]

It's been a while since I have been on here. I have just taken a break from all of the R stuff. I've kept busy with S, friends and neighbors, and even decided to remodel my kitchen.

W has been gone for over two months. The holidays were rough, but I've been getting to a new, different place than I have been before. W has missed out on a LOT of fun stuff that I have done. Well...her loss. I really have too much value for myself to continue to beg for her. I don't want the "her" that she is now anyway. I am even kind of excited about the possibilities of the future. I don't wonder what she is up to anymore. I only have contact wih her regarding S. I have been sure to share pictures and video of the activities that S and I have done together though.

The funny thing is that about a month ago, she started making little comments, texts, comments when we talked, about how I'm a good guy, I'm a good dad, and she's impressed with other things that I have done. Then out of the blue one night she asked if I wanted to come watch TV with her. huh? I politely declined. It's two or three weeks later now and she's coming over here tonight for dinner and TV. This will be the first time together in over two months.

Hmmm. Let's see what happens. I have no idea what she has in mind. To be honest, I'm not so sure what I want anymore either.

[givingitmyall]

EB,

I have cooled it on posting lately as well. Part just busy with work and part I just needed a break.

You sound good, and much of what you said I would give a big "Me too."

Just do whatever YOU want tonight when W comes over. All YOUR chioce.

[Butterfly1]

EB

Wow I'm so glad to hear from you. I was worried! You're doing awesome!~ And good job on declining her first offer.

I sincerely hope she's making moves toward you again - let her make ALL THE MOVES.

She had you on the fence before she left where she was ML one night and then moving out the next. So please BE CAREFUL.

However, I DO HAVE MY FINGERS CROSSED FOR YOU!!!! Looking really hopeful!

[Lost Rabbit]

Hey EB welcome back mate!

Hoping W's moves are positive stuff, keeping my fingers crossed too!