He actually grew a set and threatened me with bodily harm also stating that if I wasn't around, he could live with his Dad...
"Son, I brought you into this world, and I can take you out and make another one who looks just like you. Do not EVER threaten me again."
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Now I have to make a very tough decision - Call his PO and have him sent away for awhile or try to get into his head and help him redirect his anger?
All kidding aside, YOU are there and know whether you are in any danger or not. Your son is projecting the anger he feels for his Dad onto you. You have a tough line to walk here b/c you have to empathize with his feelings while, at the same time, being the authority figure.
So long as you think there is no danger of him harming you, I think you tell him you understand how he feels, but that the way he's expressing his anger (anger which is completely understandable) is not acceptable. Can you sit down with him and talk about his anger/unhappiness? Quite simply, his actions are those of a boy, not a man. (I don't know what his age is, so forgive me if he IS a boy).
As a boy/young man, it's tough feeling rejection from your father. And if he has convinced himself YOU are the reason dad left, you are part of the problem. Is he old enough to hear the truth?
And a young man/boy is searching for the answer to the question "Am I good enough? Do I have what it takes?" And that answer should come from his dad or another strong male figure. You may have to step in and be that figure right now.
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