What am I supposed to do, exactly? If I turn on my heel, metaphorically speaking, and stomp off, how is that any different from a riposte? I can tell her, "Don't ever say anything like that to me again!" And I can also tell the sun not to rise. The way I see it, if I want to hurt someone and they parry and riposte, I haven't achieved my goal -- whereas if they get all defensive, petulant even, then I know I've hit a sore spot.
No?
it doesn't matter how she feels about your boundaries. the difference between a effective boundary and a riposte is when you strike back the fight is still on. with the boundary you end the fight when the line is crossed.
"The next time you bring up your sex life with me, I will end the conversation."
her behavior = consequence
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
