Well I for one could use a trip to the UK - have a dear friend in London as well. Money is the only issue ......
I read this on another post, and thought of you, "Jody" is aDB coach (another thing I wish I had money for!)
I'm reminded of what Jody told me about the stages: "Once you get to a point where you are piecing, you will find yourself very angry w/your significant other because you were the one who was working so hard to save the marriage. When you get here, remember to step back and take a break or you'll end up taking it out on the person you are trying to make things work with."
"Once you get to a point where you are piecing, you will find yourself very angry w/your significant other because you were the one who was working so hard to save the marriage. When you get here, remember to step back and take a break or you'll end up taking it out on the person you are trying to make things work with."
Maybe this is why I feel it was neccessary for the D to happen? I have not been angered with W at all. We've had a couple of rocky moments thus far and instead of anger, I felt compassionate pitty for her in the things she has done and how bad they have hurt HER more than me?
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Wow H4L I really needed to have that feeling confirmed! Ive dug myself out of my funk, its serious money worries that is bugging me too tbh. H has been more loving in his txts and msn's maybe its just because its not physical and I was so enjoying my new found cuddle time. I think he does know what he has done but hes the sorta guy that would be more embarrassed about it so rather play it down, and as no A he has nothing to apolagise for in particular like Rocked's H, he sorta sees it that I should be glad he came back rather than I see it I let him back lol! Im sure we will get there but there is still a lot of talking to be done still one day I guess!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
. I think he does know what he has done but hes the sorta guy that would be more embarrassed about it so rather play it down, and as no A he has nothing to apolagise for in particular like Rocked's H, he sorta sees it that I should be glad he came back rather than I see it I let him back lol! Im sure we will get there but there is still a lot of talking to be done still one day I guess!
OOF! That would get me too. He needs to know - that just because he walked away doesn't mean you "are glad" he walked back. If he walked away, then darn right he's lucky you let him back! No wonder you couldn't take his happy chitchat the other day. Time for him to realize what a gem he has in you = and that many people would be too bitter to welcome someone back who has abandoned them. HE'S THE LUCKY ONE! Convince yourself, and then we'll work on making sure H knows it!
Believe me H4L I know hes lucky hes yet to find out how lucky he is lol!
Hes back and I was a bit iffy as I hadnt heard from him all day and he asked why, and I replied because I feel sick as I honestly thought I'd get home and he wouldnt be here, and he answered "why wouldnt he be!" Trouble is when we are apart for to long we revert back to behaving separated people because we can both detach now, not sure that is good for piecing but who knows!
Anyway off to catch up on my cuddles, my love tanks are seriously depleted
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Were skint, the WAS'ness has taken its toll on our finances. The good news is that H has had several phone calls today about contract work, some of it away from home but its a job! I feel like our piecing is being held on hold because we cant get sorting stuff out, both of us are trying not to let the financial situation colour our piecing situation but its hard.
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
I hear you on this one. We also had the last year take a toll on our finances, and are now recovering from that. It is hard not to let that overtake things, because it can be so stressful. I am finding it seems to help if we take a "teamwork" approach. We are in this together, let's find a way to get through it together... helps a bit anyway. ((hugs))
Rabbit -= so glad you get your love tank filled now - well deserved!!! And as for the money -= I totally relate. This separation has depleted us financially -= one reason I'm so desperately looking for work (also for GAL and self esttem!). I try to let go of the anger around how much money H has spent because of two households, legal documents, etc....I have to let go and agree with Rocked -= look at it like "we're in this together" = another reason I'm looking for work = to show I'm a partner. (It also protects me financially in case of D!
So go get your cuddles and feel like the worthy princess you are!!! Make up for lost time the past couple weeks and as a reward for making it through!
Yes still in touch with her, although now only about once a week via email. Her relationship never changed and she is still on her own, I will send her your regards
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
