GW obviously I dont know anymore than you do mate, but I suspect that the anxiety comes from the unknown! We all like to have a plan and bearing in mind your secret squirrel job sounds pretty high powered you will be used to planning ahead and it does give you a great deal of security. Getting used to the fact that you no longer have any control over your darling but wayward spouse really does cut home hard and is very painful. You are also psuedo feeling the kids pain that they cant cope with their wayward mum either.. Best plan just accept that its going to hurt and it will be a painful, but if you go read all our threads we all had some type of panic/anxiety attacks and we all have got through it to some middle ground eventually, mostly but airing our panic on here and dear friends talking us through it. It is mad isnt it that in the most scary situation in your life so far you are friends with a few lass's you dont even know from adam lol!
You are getting good advice here, some of the lads on here do prefer the more macho attack version but Im with Sandi a bit of subtley some times works just as well. I certainly went for the grass is much greener over here hun tactic ok its an enormous work in progress but if you try at all you will still end up with nothing.
On the W front dont give her too much kid detail its her job and her responsibilty and also dont make excuses or tip her off the kids are getting sad/missing her, she has got to learn from her mistakes. Just keep telling the kids that mum loves them very much she just has some things to sort out and needs some time. It will only show them that the adult way to handle discourse is to negotiate and let people have time and space, excellant demonstration.
Definitely think you should make good use of a few lunch hours for me time is a good thing! Good to have you as a friend too GW (())
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