Trying to move on

[ClingingToHope]

W just called. She's trying to set up something where we can talk about a divorce settlement on Sunday. She's taking the girls up to her mom's house and she wanted to know if I just wanted to drive up there, we could go to a restaurant, and then I could have them for the night.

I'm wising up to this offer. The past couple of times she tossed that out there is so she could head out to a small town where her best friend and a possible OM lives. That way she wouldn't have to drive them back to me and then turn around and drive way out to the small town.

I told her I didn't want to drive up to her mom's, and I didn't commit to taking the girls that night. She's off on MLK day so I see what she's doing.

As of now, she's going to drive down to my place for the discussion and then go back and get them ... if I still want them she can drop them off.

I love my girls ... but I'm considering turning the offer of having them for the night down. What's holding me back is W is likely just to leave them at her mom's house and go out anyway. So I'd be punishing the kids. If I take them, it still means she has to drive 20 minutes up, 20 minutes back, 20 minutes back up, 20 minutes back down ... and then if she wants to head to the small town ... 40 minutes back up.

The flip side is I could just keep saying I haven't decided until Sunday and then tell her, yes, I'll take them. Mess with her a little bit.

The whole OM thing, whether there's one now or in the future, is going to sting when I find out. No question about it. Still, I'm feeling good still. The faster this goes the faster I get out of this financial avalanche.