No, you have a real boundary problem. You are worth much more than how you let her treat you. She disrespects you. The boundary is for you, set by you, good for you and enforced by you. Detach for a minute and imagine if someone else wrote this post. What would you advise them to do? The best defense is a good offense.
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I've said it a few times but I guess not as clearly as Coach put it above. SP she treats you that way because you let her treat you that way plain & simple. F!@#$%* the marriage at this point, how about just aim for self-respect and commanding her respect - that would be an awesome goal right now.
You also posted that she was something like a "middle aged adolescent" (or something like that) and yeah, I can feel that in your posts, she throws temper tantrums when she doesn't get what she wants, changes schedules on the fly without checking to see how it affects your schedule when you plan things and that latest bit about "hoping you guys can be flexible" in case Signore shows up and she wants to have him over for company and hoping you can babysit for her when that happens, are you F!@#$%* kidding me or what?! Your life has no value to her whatsoever at this point, you have to see that, she is an alien, a shell, she looks similar to the person you were married to but she isn't that lady anymore and that's a good thing at this point, it should finally get your brain in gear and realize that this woman doesn't care how any of this affects you, hurts you and will use you as much as you let her and you're letting her do that quite a bit.
Push for 50/50 custody, like I said, this is as much for you as it is for her, you can at least try it, if it doesn't work out, take over full custody, you can change the agreement at a later point, if that's what the kids want and I'm sure she'll agree to it as well so that she can have her "freedom".
