Here's my story..midlife crisis/infidelity

[January girl]

I have read and re-read everything you have said to me multiple times in the past 3 days.

If I kick him out, he will move in with OW, her teenage son and mother AND we will HAVE to have "the talk" with D9. I have figured out that I am so TERRIFIED of this talk that I am paralyzed. I'm putting up with a lot that I shouldn't simply because I don't want to have "the talk." I know that I am being weak. He and I are both involved in a family business which complicates the sitch even more.

How do spouses of MLC people simply ignore what is going on with the OW/OM?

He told me last night that he wants our daughter to help him set up his apartment and "that she may never meet the OW." I know, I know, they lie, manipulate etc. It's just that that was THE FIRST time that he ever mentioned her EVER being "out of the picture."

I know I'm a mess. Yesterday was my birthday-44. Normally I love my birthday but I had a "mental pity party" a couple of times during the day. He also wrote me a note in my birthday
card and basically said he was very sorry about what he has done but that he will always love me because I'm the one who gave him the best gifts in the world-our kids. He said I deserve so much
more than he can give. He feels he is being lead down a different path.

He has decided to go to IC which I think is a good idea.

Thoughts? (Without 2x4's if possible)