Flushing the toxins from my life

[CountingCrows]

This doesn't seem nearly adequate for you to reconcile with her.

Nope...not nearly adequate.

I seem to remember you saying that is wasn't the nature of the affairs that bothered you, as much as the amount of lying involved. I may be wrong about that, and I wish I had time to look back in your thread to see.

Your memory is good. That was one of my biggest problems with everything, as much as the affairs themselves. Makes it very hard to believe anything she tells me right now.

I guess what I'm trying to say here is that I'm worried that you are letting your compassion for W pull you back into a sitch where you may be taking care of her. You know that doesn't work.
Of course, I hardly know your sitch, just what I've read in your threads. But this is my gut reaction for whatever it's worth.

Good gut feeling. I'm feeling it too. My compassion/sympathy button has been pressed, and I'm finding myself fighting the urge to take care of her again.

there it the legal ramification too, that if you resume a physical relationship with W, AFTER you know about the affairs, you give up some of your legal claim against them in your D. That is how it is in my state. I don't know about yours.

That's at least one area that doesn't work against me...legally at least. I'm in a "no fault" state, where the affairs don't even come into play at all. Still, I'm making myself very emotionally vulnerable by being more physical with her.

Thanks for the insights and opinions. I'm really trying to look at everything rationally and objectively, and sometimes failing. But I'm getting stronger, and will have the strength to do what I have to do, even if I've been pushed back a bit.

S7 is having a great week with my family at Disney World. Can't wait to join them tomorrow night!