Moving back in

[C-Bart]

I will admit that I haven't read up on your sitch but I'm not so sure you crashed and burned ...

I'm am agitated at this point and I call W on this and tell her, "No, it's not we,, it's you who have initiated the D, it's you who no longer wants to work on the R." "don't tell the kids that I am an agreeable party to this"

While I would never support saying this in front of your children, I think you're perfectly within your rights to say it to your W, particularly in counseling. Sometimes I see on this board that people, particularly LBS's, are afraid to stand up for themselves. And lord knows, that doesn't make for healthy relationships.

Drew,
Semantics aside, do you think that DDog should cover for his W and say this is a mutual decision. That's not the truth and eventual the kids will figure that out. I'm not saying the message should be mommy doesn't love the family anymore but she really needs to own the situation and the conversation with the Kids.