I saw you mentioned MF (er's), and thought I was being talked about! LoL
I just read through your sitch. I live in a neighborhood w/physicians and surgeons, and their wives are my best friends. Their kids are my kids best friends. (My H owns a trucking company, and I automate research labs in pharma companies, universities, etc...)
I've been through a few separations and divorces w/this group, as we're all in the late 30's/early 40's age bracket. Every single one of them have a background that almost mirrors your nine years of marriage, BEGINNING w/the physician/surgeon burying their head in the study/work, and (for lack of a better term) alienating their family. The ones I have been closest to have the physician/surgeon having the affair, and not the wives.
So, you may be a great catch, but you're unique in your values.
Hold onto those. Put those boys first. You can't get these years back. I live in my dream house, have lived a dream life, and none of it matters as much as rebuilding this marriage of mine. It just doesn't matter.
PS - I just had a cardiac ablation two weeks ago!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
