Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

Thanks, that was what my gut was telling me, thus why my first option.
I love your words on the daughter - you are right, let her ask. I want her to care, but can't make her care. D and I had another talk this morning, a couple long hugs, and I did a lot of esteem building with her and she promised me that "i will not have a good day, I will have a great day"...W doesn't need to know that!

I did spend some time this morning in the nice quiet house trying to figure out why I am worrying so much and the anxiety that comes and goes. I think it boils down to insecurity and being mad about the kids. I am mad that she is alienating our daughters and confused by it becaue they used to be the center of her universe. The other half is insecurity on my part that I have to do better at. I have made great progress on the insecurity, but obviously not enough. I was a center of attention and focus from my W for a long time and now I am not. And the insecurity kicks in along with some fear and then the anxiety and trying to decipher every move kicks in. Got to continue to work on that. That is today's focus.

And walking thru the kitchen this monrning...things need re-arranging like someone had suggested. Heck, I do 75% of the cooking these days anyways and about 90% of the kitchen cleaning, there are a couple of very little things that have bugged me for a while...going to fix those little things and make it more functional for me!