If he hasn't returned your call in a day or two, then leave another vm stating what the issue is and that it is important that you discuss it together.

Other than that, try as hard as you can to not let your mind get "stuck" on the negative thoughts like being the "enemy". That will cause you to spiral down emotionally, and it is also mind reading. You don't know how he is viewing you right now. When my H was caught up in his A, sometimes the way he treated me made me feel like he saw me that way. Now, when we talk, he says he never saw me that way. He says he saw me as a wonderful woman but that he had to try to not think about me much at all or he would feel guilty. And, he was getting so much pressure from OW that he would try to put me out of his mind to focus on her. You just don't know what is going through his mind, so try not to make assumptions.

Good job on the contacts you hot mamma you! cool What are you doing for YOU today?