However, in my opinion (and you know what they say about opinions) you need to stop with the mind games. You are investing energy and thoughts into something you can't control. I know you know this but you need to stop focusing on your W and OM.
Just know that your R/M is dead and was dead the day she dropped the bomb. Move on with your life, focus on YOU, what YOU can control, your children and leave the rest to God.
I would love to know what the C says about shielding them from the truth.
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10