Flushing the toxins from my life

[Awoken]

Wow CC,

I wished I had checked in earlier on your thread. I've only got a minute right now, but I see no one else has posted yet so I thought I would leave you a few thoughts and let you know I'm still out here thinking about you.

My first reaction to reading your new post, was "oh no!".

Although she did/does have feelings for OM, I realize now that it wasn't quite the deep romantic relationship that I thought they had. She has cut off all physical contact with him, but not all communication.

This doesn't seem nearly adequate for you to reconcile with her.

Cheating is still cheating, but "falling in love" with someone else still seems worse to me than having a brief, awkward physical encounter with someone. No justification for either, but definitely apples vs oranges.

I seem to remember you saying that is wasn't the nature of the affairs that bothered you, as much as the amount of lying involved. I may be wrong about that, and I wish I had time to look back in your thread to see.

I guess what I'm trying to say here is that I'm worried that you are letting your compassion for W pull you back into a sitch where you may be taking care of her. You know that doesn't work.
Of course, I hardly know your sitch, just what I've read in your threads. But this is my gut reaction for whatever it's worth.

there it the legal ramification too, that if you resume a physical relationship with W, AFTER you know about the affairs, you give up some of your legal claim against them in your D. That is how it is in my state. I don't know about yours.

Congrats on the full time position offer. I hope u and S7 are doing well. You are in my thoughts in prayers CC.