If she asks tell her it is very unfortunate that she feels so strongly about you using all available resources to improve yourself.
She probably won't like that answer or any other answer you give her but that really isn't your problem. I am quite certain you don't like the resources SHE is using to dismantle your marriage but you don't give her crap about it.
The WAS will always hold you to a different standard. Just roll with it.
