IIRC somewhere you mentioned you were a fan of the show House. I also am a fan.
Think of House's criteria for taking a case... NOT BORING!
The only time House seems sort of happy and "normal" is when he is creating and participating in some sort of drama or highly destructive behavior. That is why he is always looking for "NOT BORING". He is not happy as a person so he has to find his kicks through abusing his friends and staff. His life is so empty he only is drawn to things that are "not boring".
In a way your W sounds very much like that. Some people simply equate being happy and stable as boring. When you are a parent sometimes it *is* boring to be the one that is 110% in charge of the stability but that is what being a parent is all about.
House ALWAYS crashes and burns. Cuddy, Wilson, 13 and the hot Aussie always pick him up again and continue to tolerate his BS because he is the best diagnostician in the country (as the show says). The one person that actually stands up to him (Foreman) is also the one that is most like him. You tolerated your W's BS not because she is the BEST mother but because she is the worst????? What exactly are you fighting for here? A woman that doesn't have a deep interest in being a full time mom.
