I want to say that you need to remember that he has an imbalance- I know that doesn't help though, b/c you are emotionally attached and what he's doing HURTS you.
I've had every reason in the world to shift the blame on my W's disorder, but it still doesn't alleviate the HURT I feel.
Also, he is not medicated- that is a huge problem. I am a recovering addict, and when I was using (speed) I was VERY MANIC- people become obcessive/compulsive and will run themselves in circles. When you are in that state you will attempt to control or manipulate other people to get what you want- so that you feel in control.
I would not cater to his whims, I would focus on yourself and your family, keep working and keep ignoring his texts, and do what ever you can do to stay positive and unstressed.
