I have been playing a little mind game with myself the past couple of days. I this game, I am assuming that my W and the OM are going to get married and will likley have kids together. By thinking this way, there is now no reason to analyse things from a relationship perspective and it seems to be helping me focus more on myself and the kids.
From my suggestion, my W is setting up a family C session so we can make sure the kids are good. My D6 has been a little upset about the D and we are both concerned about her. I think this will be a good thing. While we were discussing this appraoch via email my W mentioned she thought this would be good for "us" and the kids. She is likely going to use part of the session time to get me to accept the OM and ask for my blessing or something to make her feel better about her bad behaviors. Not going to happen! I can and have accpeted the sitch but I do think I will ever be able to accept him and what he represents. Any man that is willing to be involved with a married woman with children (twice) in my opinion is total slime, no matter how nice he is.
The kids are going to get older and at some point will start asking questions. I would like to get the C's opinion on how to handle this. Do I sheild them for the rest of their lives (lie) or do I give them an honest answer...your mother had an A. Not sure how to handle that one but I am probably thinking to far down the road on this one.
