Truthfully, I think age and maturity is a big difference. I could have never handled this 10 years ago and even more.
You are right in assuming my wife and I are not on first marriages. We both escaped from sexually sterile marriages and we really really appreciate the fact that we both love and desire each other.
You may well be better staying with the fantasy rather than the reality. And if that works for you, why not? For us, the fantasies were nice for a while, but we had that nagging feeling that we wanted to at least explore the next step. We both trusted each other enough to know that there was no way we would have wanted someone else anywhere near as much as we want each other. And we both knew that if either of us were uncomfortable with this that we would stop.
In fact, at one point, she didn't want to continue. It bothered her. So, I agreed that we would put an end to it. Then, after a while, she found the desire to have sex with someone else growing again. I was very ok with that within our boundaries. So, we are continuing, in a VERY selective way, to continue our explorations. And so far we are really enjoying it.
bob
divorced in 2003 Married in 12/2005 born 1948 wife born 1958 divorced in 2001
