When I gave my W, RobX's - "I get it" speech. It did something to both of us. It made W realize it was her choice and I automatically detached.
When you detach and set boundaries it helps you to see where you stop and she starts. If you are waiting for someone else to change then you fall into victim think - I could be happy if they just...... When you change your perspective to choice (read opportunity) then you empower yourself and let go of the idea someone else is responsible for your feelings. You have choices in how you handle things. It's a incredible burden to put how you feel on someone else's shoulders.
It doesn't even really matter how you feel. It's did you do the right thing, did you execute the plan the way you were taught? When you do the right things you feel better because doing your best equal success. The eliminates the need for expectations. Line your goals up with your values/beliefs, plan out the actions necessary to get there then get moving. You can handle it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
