Wife wants best of both worlds

[Kemper]

I hope that she is "smart" enough to think about introducing the children to OM. However, as we know being "smart" isn't always available when they are in the fog.

I know that my children (2,3) have been introduced to OM. I think it shows the poor decisions my W is making because the person I M would have thought twice about that. What I do know is that I can't control what she does and she has to live with the consequences of her actions. While I realize my children are young I still have memories of when I was their age and I hope for my W's sake and their sake that they don't remember meeting him when they are older.

You need to focus on what you can control and let go of what you can't control. I know it is hard when it comes to your children but if you can't do anything about it then you can't let your mind get bogged down in the details of those situations either.