VERY GOOD posts. And SD, it DOES take time. For me, I tried like he!! to "get there." I just never seemed to be able to reach it. But, when I decided to take a few days "off" from worrying about reaching that place, it just happened. And you WILL know it when it happens.
SD,
I was going to tell you the same thing before I fat fingered the submit button.
CG, Gnos &GIMA are right and wise.
When I gave my W, RobX's - "I get it" speech. It did something to both of us. It made W realize it was her choice and I automatically detached.
Am I 100% detached -no. But I can tell you I came along way.
It's time. It's time to not tolerate the behavior. If it was ANYBODY else would you?
It's time to let her live with the consequences of her actions. Everywhere we are in life is because we made a choice to lead us to where we are.
You need to reinforce yourself as I did. Get something put together like-
" I deserve honesty, integrity, love, happiness, health, success because that is what I have to offer."
Reread it, commit it to memory and live by it. Whatever it takes to get there - get there- my days are much better now and I'm still a rookie.
M43 W43 D11 S7 M18 T20 WAW is back & trying (no she was lying) Close to callin' it busted but.... watching Whatever the outcome - It was a choice.
