Detachment is a different process and timeline for each of us.
I did much better when I had no contact with my H. The second I had to speak or see him or even have a phone conversation with him I went downhill FAST.
I will never forget this moment - it was right before our trial was set to begin and my H came by to try and butter me up so I would agree to the separation. He looked at me and said "what is the problem with being separated?" (note: he was the one that rammed divorce down my throat for 18 months prior saying on a daily or hourly basis it was his only option). He then had the audacity to look at me and say "I guess the reason you don't want to get separated is so you don't have to be legally attached to me anymore". LOL! No sh*t, Sherlock! I wanted to ask him exactly WTF he thought I had been working on with such diligence for the past 1.5 years.. detaching. It is what he TOLD Me to do and what he WANTED me to do but when it stopped suiting him, well, he didn't like it and tried to turn it back around on me.
Had I not put myself in the position to be exposed to his continued BS that conversation NEVER would have happened. Due to your job/location you are in the position to eliminate exposure and that is a GOOD thing. And right now you need as many good things as you can find!
