Don't know where to post this.

[loveherstill]

That is just it luvless she says that she want a D sometimes, she says separated sometimes, back together sometimes, her actions show love and compassion and a want to work on us sometimes and at other times they show her running away fast.

She says "I don't know what or who I want."

Extreme fence sitting with her cake in hand.

I need to nudge her off the fence.

Too much longer and I will give up and when that happens I will run a bull dozer over that fence and burn the remains.

I am looking for positive baby steps right now.

Wanting to go out, family time, asking to fix my plate, approaching me for a hug and asking me to sit by her, and buying me the shaving cream all seem like baby steps to me.

Her telling me she loves me too (even if she had to follow it with but not in love) also seems like a baby step as before she would have been hateful.

She was also paying attention while I played with the boys and smiling big when she thought I was not looking. She backed up my parenting descisions when one of the boys got in trouble and reinforced the timeout that I set for S4.

I thought many positives for baby steps.