That's right, don't focus on him right now. Work on you. And that part about nobody knowing he's an ass... don't worry. Leopards never change their sports. The mask will be pulled back in time but don't spend your days worrying your pretty little head about it.
You deserve respect and love and if he can't give it to you, you are WAY better off without him.
That's great you reconnected with an old friend. Gotta love girlfriends!
