I think it is very important to clear things up. Nobody here doesn't "like" Kevin. In fact, we don't know Kevin as an individual as he does not allow us to get to know the person that is Kevin because every move he makes, every thought he has and shares is all about his W.
Even stuff he tries to pass off as things "for him" really all relate back to his W.
While ALL of us here (here = this forum) arrived with the same problem (broken or already dissolved marriages) and it is our main topic of conversation eventually personalities come out. We have not seen any personality from Kevin and that is a concern. A HUGE one!
There was a really great "getting to know" thread that SuperGirl started and it was a really fun read! So many neat facts and tidbits were posted about other things aside from our marriage/R problems. Things about US as people. Guess what poster had NOTHING to share?
25 shared a personal story a while ago about her sister (I think it was her sister, maybe her sister in law) and how she was so depressed all the time she became a chore. I don't know anybody that is not depressed when their marriage falls apart. It is horrid. It sucks the life right out of you. We all crawl under the bed with the idea of NEVER coming out. But eventually we all have to crawl out. One cannot have marriage problems consume every fiber of their being for years on end. I know this for a fact as I did that for so long I would up hospitalized. Not good. I don't recommend it at all.
The only people who support Kevin in the way he wants are the people that are just as stuck as he is. It's sort of like a drug addict thinking their dealer and other junkies are their best friends. They are not good friends but they do accept a junkie because they are a junkie too.
It has nothing to do with "not liking" somebody. In fact, I doubt any of us would continue to post such thoughtful and informational posts to Kevin if we didn't like him. But the longer this goes on the more I think we realize we don't actually know Kevin. We know "Kevin and wife".
