I know you want to save your M and if it were only a few months of separation I would say maybe wait a few, but its been months and months, W has had numerous A's and she isn't looking over her shoulder at all. It sucks and I'm sorry!
I have to agree with 25. You should find that happy medium place that keeps you moving forward even if its at a slow pace. I could really see your sich staying this way for a long time because its wonderful for your W. What cake eater wouldn't like this situation?
You do much better when you are pissed off and angry
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!