I know you will get there! I don't have any doubts in my mind. Simply embracing the notion that such tools exist is a pretty big step.
I wasn't coming down on you per say - this applies to all of us.
This is TOUGH work. While I can't begin to understand or relate to your job (the military) I would guess that is also very tough work. The difference is you went through a pretty intensive training program to understand your job. As I said before, I doubt the day you enlisted in the Army they just gave you a big huge gun and a tank. That would be dangerous. In fact, from what I understand about military training it seems you are knocked down so you can be rebuilt. This is sort of the same. For most of us we don't have the luxury of having a training program for marriage prior to marriage. Most of the time we understand we need marriage training/education after the "war" not before.
