Of course your H thinks things are getting difficult, lol! His W is setting boundaries about the woman he is having an affair with. I am not sure anybody would be comfortable in that situation. The good thing is his comfort while he is having an affair is not really important.
It sounds as if your H is starting to wonder how much longer you will tolerate his BS before you make the choice FOR HIM and he does not like that. He wants to be able to make the choice (you or OW). Things were okay for him when you were not setting boundaries about OW. Now that you are establishing it is NOT okay he isn't quite as comfortable. Instead of really examining that as a whole it is MUCH easier for him to flip it back on you by saying... "gee, Bibi, I guess you won't keep loving me if I keep acting like this so I better run so I can hide things better and still string you along".
Um. NO!
No worries if he can't decide. Decide for him. In fact, help him pack and send him on his way.
The reason he told his mommy things are getting difficult again all comes down to one concept... WHEN YOU ARE IN AN AFFAIR THINGS DON'T GO QUITE AS SMOOTH AS YOU ANTICIPATE. I am not sure anybody feels sorry for him because he is having a tough time juggling his WIFE and his MISTRESS.
And where does he run? To his mommy. That is disturbing on many levels IMO. Talking to your parents for support is one thing. Asking to move in so you can better juggle your W and MISTRESS is another.
