DID XH M OW or not??

[peacetoday]

I called xmil to see if she knew where xh was
she lives up north
she said he and ow were there for the last few weeks

she was trying to get them out
xh is creating a lot of pain for her
she doesnt like OW says she is a NUT and liar
she said she told xh to NOT come back

she asked xh to call the kids
he wouldnt
he is mad at me
he said the kids will be ok without him this is something he has to do
she told him to go back to this state and man up to his family
she validated me and our M a alot
said xh is a real mess as if I hadnt known
he is drinking again that I wasnt sure as he was a recovering alcoholic in AA for 20 years
she said OW is bringing him down
so
they are going to move to the west where OW family is
MIL said xh said her family is a bunch of nuts too
I was sad to hear xh left state
I thought he did but this was verification
my life seems so chaotic where xh is concerned
seems like all my friends have NOrmal lives
where xh soent leave without a word
and what do I tell my kids
I have a therapy appt to discuss how to handle this new info with kids
and xh abandonment of them
as d14 is talking about where he is and ect
peace
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