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[awest1217]

Clinging, you have to remember that we have had FB for years so it isn't like I started FB since the separation. We have been FB friends since I got FB which is not too long after we got married. I understand the thing about being mysterious, but it would set us back a lot. I am waiting for the day he puts we are no longer married, but I don't think that will happen. He hasn't contacted a lawyer, only I have, and so I doubt we will ever D. I just have to wait for him to grow up.

As far as S, H is completely comfortable around him. During the few weeks where things were going well, H played video games with him (yes S can play), played music with him, played his "guys" with him, read to him, sang with him, etc. He knows how to be a good dad. I want him to be a dad all the time and not when it is convenient. He talks to OW multiple times during the day, why can't he take a few minutes to call and talk to S. (Yes S does talk on the phone). Even if it is just to say hi and I love you. Is that so hard? Or even call me to just talk about S, although I wouldn't answer right now since he has gone two weeks without any contact. He should call to make arrangements to see S even once a week, but he doesn't even ask. He will call OW and ask her to do stuff, but won't call to hang out with S. HE is ok to have OW at his house and spend the night, but he can't take his own S there for a few hours to spend time with him when I have agreed to make sure H has all the things S would need to have a good time, which isn't much because H and S just play and S enjoys it. H should be paying some type of support, I am only asking for $500 a month, which is what is recommended by the IN child support calculator. He doesn't pay for anything except for the months of October, November, and December.

H knows how to be a good dad because he was being one from November to December. He would at least see S twice a week and call to see how he was doing. Now once again there is nothing. I don't understand how he can say he loves him so much, misses him so much, and cries every night because he wants to be with him, but then won't even try. I have never denied him the opportunity to see S so it isn't like I would say no. He has a right to see S, but he won't even ask. That is what is wrong. He shouldn't say he misses S and how hard it is on him to be apart when he is not willing to even put aside a little time to be with him.

Sorry, but I am not asking for much, but maybe when there is nothing, even a little is a lot.

On a side note, got really mad because H posted something to one of my friends comments on FB, a friend that would like to give H a piece of his mind, and said it like nothing has ever changed...YEAH RIGHT! He needs to man up and admit his faults and at least show a little remorse or shame by not posting to people's walls that he knows can't stand him. UH!

Feel much better getting that out.

Parent teacher conferences went well, and only two more days then a 3 day weekend. Sledding, window shopping (no money except gift cards that I should probably save), cleaning, church, and possibly going to my grandma's.