Hey BJ, I think about you often, and glad you had a chance to catch up here.
It sounds like you have your hands full, but are doing great on all this. Keep it up, you will make it through this, and so will your kids. I hope you get S10 a good therapist, and get him started on the path to healing. Let him know that his feelings are valid, and hopefully he can start talking through it.
Ah yes, finances with the StBXW, the same spot I am having the hardest time with right now, both personally and just dealing with it. Remember that it is not permanent though, and even if things are not going your way financially now, once this is through, you WILL rebuild, regain your financial freedom, and succeed where you want to.
When I look at the very worst that can happen, and that would be having to declare personal bankruptcy, and then accept that could happen. It helps then to realize that you can rebuild from that. It's temporary only, many people have hit that, and then gone on to success again. Accepting that helps push forward through the mess of finances that StBXW's have wrought.
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I haven't the interest or time to dwell on her problems, only on those she continues to cause for me and the kids
Sounds like you are mentally in a good place, keep that above, and when you find your focus shifting to what StBXW is doing, turn it back to focus on you, your Kids, and what you and they need and want. Helps to keep you centered.
Keep us in your thoughts, and drop by and update us when you can. You know you are in our thoughts!
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
