OK W has texted S15 asking what we are doing for his birthday tommorrow.
If she wants to come over she can (in fact I think it would be a good chance for her to see what's changed), but I don't want it to look like we are needy of her being here.
We are having a 'party tea' (party pies, sausage rolls etc which is a family tradition for all birthdays no matter how old, and the kids love it).
Her text was just "What are u doing tommorrow". I want what we send back to be appropriate to all of us DB'ing and am thinking just a simple "Party Tea Here" so that she knows what's happening but will have to initiate more contact if she wants to know more.
Needless to say if she does come here there will be NO R Talk!!!
H: 44 W: 42 Married: 23 years Bomb: 16/07/2009 PA Confirmed: 16/01/2010 Over it & working on ME: Feb'ish 2010