Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

OK, S is fed and asleep. Today when WH arrived he brought starbucks lattes for both of us...I was surprised and thankful-it has been a few weeks since he brought me any!

So I took half an hour or so to drink it and check my email, etc. We chatted a little about nothing. Then I worked out, got ready, sorted through S's old baby clothes to give away, then left to run errands. When I returned, WH filled me in on S, then let me know his stepdad was flying in from Alaska on last minute whim and would be visiting tomorrow. He hasn't seen him in 6-7 years and I've never met him. WH was telling me how his family always just announces their arrival without arranging ahead of time to see if it will work. Well, I will be at Bunco and WH will be with S so I won't get to see his stepdad. He sounded genuinely sorry that I wouldn't be able to meet him. (yet another weird thing to me...if he wants to divorce me hy would he care if I met his family?)

Then I baked goodies for my Bunco group: 2 desserts that include peanutbutter jelly bars and oreo rice krispy treats. For appetizers I'm making "cowboy caviar" which is basically a bean salad with Mexican seasoning served with tortilla chips and a pesto-hummus dip that is store bought, served with sliced baguette and veggies for dipping.

WH ended up not going with us to the signing class because he had to get his oil changed but I am actually glad he didn't go! (more about the class later)

Oh, this is funny-when WH was putting S in his car seat in my car, he said "Ok, love you guys!" Now obviously this was a slip of some sort- maybe he meant to say "love you, guy!" so I pretended not to notice. I want to believe it was a subconscious slip...but maybe he says "love you guys" to OW and her little girl.

Regardless, it cracked me up!

so I think I am achieving my goal of being distant with 80-90% accuracy. Still too soon to see results yet, but the longer I do it, the easier it gets and the more determination I have to keep at it!