Trying LRT - Please Help!

[motherof3]

Here are the highlights from this past week.

Late last week, on one of the nights H had the kids I had forgotten to send S4’s antibiotic with him. I called H to let him know I would drop the meds by later that night. I delivered the meds by placing them by the front door and rang the door bell. By the time H came to the door I was already in the car. He waved and I waved back. About 15 minutes later I received a text from H containing a couple of sentences thanking me for dropping off the meds. I didn’t see the text until the next day and didn’t ever respond. This was different because I haven’t received a text from H in quite some time.

H called one night to speak with the kids. I answered and shocking as it was, H asked how I was doing. It came across as one of those questions were the person asking doesn’t really care how you are doing, but wanted to be polite so asked the question anyway. I said that I was trying to stay warm from digging out of the snow. He went on for awhile, talking about the crazy cold weather. Then after a few minutes he asked to speak with the kids. The conversation was really something I could have had with anyone. But, just to have this type of conversation with H was something different.

I have had a few email communications with him concerning arrangements for the kids. But since that phone call I have not spoken to him verbally again. Typically when I call H’s phone to speak to the kids, he will have one of them answer the phone. Thus, H does not usually initiate any conversation with me. When H calls my home to speak with the kids, I have handled it both ways. Sometimes I have the kids pick up the phone without me interfering and other times I answer the phone myself. Thoughts? Opinions?

Saturday I will be seeing H at S6’s basketball game. After going back and rereading R2C, Kara’s, and MF input I have decided that I am going just be myself and treat him like I would treat any other person at the game. As MF stated, there is nothing wrong with flaunting the new me. And if H doesn’t take notice, maybe someone else will.

On the legal front, mid-December, H stated that he had been given a phone number of a mediator and would like to schedule an appointment with him. Since then I haven’t heard anything about it. Apparently with the holidays and H’s busy schedule at work the last couple of weeks, he hasn’t found the time to move this process along. Now that things have slowed down for him a little bit at work, I anticipate this topic to come up again.