He didn't really have to forward it on. I replied with "too bad for them. Thank you for letting me know."
First contact initiated by him since...October?
Then came home today to message on the answering machine from his doc. "Just calling with blood work results, all fine, cholesteral fine, etc."
Sorta weird to hear all that. Why hasn't he updated his contact info? It's a big bureaucratic hospital, wouldn't be impossible that updated contact info didn't make it all the way down the line.
Anyhow, how do I email him now? "doc left message. All blood work OK. Call her for more info." "doc left message. Call her for the info. Please update your contact info." "doc left message. Sorry to hear you don't have long left to live. Good luck." "doc left message. Dreadful case of STD. Better come in right away."
What I want to do is the first. Just friendly, pass on the info.
The second response, about updating contact info, seems to cold and pushing him further away. (Basic DB question: is what you are about to do going to bring him closer or push further away?)
I asked PDT question: what would God himself want me to do?
I think just being decent, short, simple: "doc called. Bloodwork fine. Call her for more details if you want."
I didn't really feel I needed to hear about his LDL, HDL, kidney function, etc. Would have been just as happy to hear that all his numbers were in the tank and probably, in doc's opinion, due to mental stress of deceit, lies, and in general being a bad person.
Oh--"next steps" refers to my plans re: taxes, house, etc, but I will save that for a separate post.
Advice, please!
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
