This might sound counter intuitive, but the fact that your wife is acting so extremely odd, even with your children, is almost a postive in my mind. My W may be acting selfish and hurtful but at least she is being rational. Your W has truely been taken over by some unknown alien fleet. At some point in time she is going to wake up to the fact that she is acting like a real idiot. Who knows what the catalyst will be for that realization but I think it will happen.
Your job is to have a consistant disposition on important issues like kids, money, and boundarie. Stick to your guns and move on like there is no chance of reconciliation. Things like arguments, criticism and guilt trips are counter producitve at this point.
