colombianchick,

It does sound like you have a controlling H. Whose idea was it leave and separate?

I'm new, so don't have much advice to give yet. However, I'm sure the more experienced DB'sters will be along shortly to offer their wisdom.

Hang in there

Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10