Ok Bradley, nice surrender speech. I dont believe it. You are just going through the ebbs and floods that happen to a person in your situation. Dont make any rash decisions. Dont even make a decision this weekend. Why not just spend time with your boys instead and not talk anything out with your W. I think you need much more time to think and gather thoughts of others on this forum.
I know that J3B said to not make a timeline. I differ on this a bit in that I think it is good to set a timeline for yourself with a condition that it can be changed. It helps to give yourself a target so as to have some sort of sanity of your situation. I think if you were to talk to a counselor, they may help give you some guidance on personal goals, objectives and timelines. How is your golf swing? Could you maybe take a lesson to fine tune it?
Before you decide to move on and become a catch for someone, you cant leave that door partly open. There is a dynamic that could occur if you find someone else. Your W may all of a sudden decide that she is really going to lose you and may come to some huge awakening. However, that would be very unfair to the new lady you meet.
I dated and found someone before my divorce was final. I dont know if it had anything to do with my W asking for another chance, but there could have been some jealousy on her part. I dont really care as I had closed the door in my mind on her before dating so it made no difference to me. Even if I had not met the new person, I would not ever want my W back because I learned she lacked the strength to piece a marriage back to a happy state.
You have time on your side. Use it to your advantage. First learn to detach and be content in your own shell before making any life changing decisions.
