I wrote this on Maynard's thread. Edited and copied here for "safe keeping"

Don't have the same consequences for all your boundaries... and be prepared to ENFORCE them. Your boundaries WILL be tested. Make no mistake about it. Every time you fail to enforce a boundary your W will lose respect for you... Find ENFORCEABLE boundaries. Make sure you have both the balls and legal rights to execute them.

Here's a parting gift for you to consider:
Originally Posted By: Gnosis

While LBS talks, WAS eats cake and walks,
Without action LBS sits on hands in dissatisfaction,
When LBS makes a stand, WAS will slap the hand,
While LBS is firm, WAS will squirm.
When LBS walks, WAS demands talks,
LBS waits and listens, WAS snorts and glistens,
Until LBS lays down the laws, WAS will not retract the claws

�2010 Gnosis laugh
From a potential novel called "Who Gno's best?" (At your favorite bookstore sometime around 20/20)

Best read with hindsight. wink