I was thinking about what you asked me earlier. Here is what I have come up with. (you asked why our H's try and talk to us, you know, their WIVES about stuff).
My H told me (this is not recent just for clarification) he could not talk to his GF about me. That she got crazy jealous and the topic was off limits. She had put all kinds of limitations on my H.. he was not to talk to me unless she knew about it and she NEVER wanted him to talk to me again.
Who stays in a two year R where they can't talk about things from their past (obviously my H but I digress)? Despite this insanity my H decides to "stick it out with OW".
What option does my H have? He knows I won't give him the time of day. He is only "allowed" to talk to OW (now long time GF) about certain things.
If my H and OW ever break up (they won't, my H would rather die miserable than be in two failed R's) what are his options?
Is he going to meet another new person and say... "gee new lady, I can't really EVER tell you about my past. See, I left my first wife because she had a disease and I was too much of a wimp to tell her how scared I was so I just cheated on her and left. But, new lady, the woman I cheated on my W with, well, I was not allowed to talk to her about my W despite the fact we were in a two year R and I lost all my assets to be with her. Eventually me and her broke up and well, here I am".
I mean, WHO ON EARTH would not think he was a super ass hole?
In order to hide his ass hole'ish ways, he is never going to be able to be honest to anybody about his past.
So, instead of working on themselves it is easier to call US (you know, their f'ing WIVES) and just complain.
Makes sense, CG. I have often wondered how H will tell the women of the future that he left 4 kids behind. Plus, we will probably have a lot of contact, for a lot of years, so she better not be the jealous type. I was a demon to my Dad's GF's. I can't imagine trying to date someone with 4 demonic kids. LOL!
Oh wait...that goes for me too. ROFL
The OW probably gets jealous of you because you have so much going for you. Your star is rising, and she is the homewrecking skank who he will leave eventually.
The OW probably gets jealous of you because you have so much going for you. Your star is rising, and she is the homewrecking skank who he will leave eventually.[/quote]
True...so True
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
Everytime the kids talk to H, the last kid talking always says...do you want to talk to Mom?
H always says...if she has something to say.
Kid looks at me to see if I want to talk. I look horrified, and I take the phone (it's my cell). I press end, without saying anything, and basically hang up on H.
I never say, no, I have nothing to say to him to the kid. I just press the end call button. Which basically says, I have nothing to say to him to the kid. lol
Should I occasionally have something to say, or continue hanging up on him?
Seems a little hostile, but I didn't know what else to do.
