Can any good come out of giving W some "space"

[dday101798]

I cant make her do anything. I am working on myself right now, going to show her Im doing my own thing (again) and make her curious.

Sorry I couldn't help but point out the contradiction within two sentences.

You have the right idea here, but you're setting yourself up for disappointment and more heartache.

If you do as you say, and "show her you're doing your own thing" and doesn't react, you'll be disappointed. If you don't "make her curious" you'll be even more disappointed. Why? The underlying tone of that is what you are going to expect, and expectations......... a no no for your mental good.

Now, if you just go and do your thing, and enjoy it for you and don't give two hooting hollars about what she thinks of it, and then she gets curious as she sees you living out your life without her and draw her attention, that would be a bonus, no? And going about this way, if she doesn't care or take interest in what you're doing and spike her curiosity, oh-well, atleast your having the most decent time possible for YOU. Not her.