Start of the end..

[iwantittowork]

I understand your point Ant, and I'll probably drop my response above and at least reword it.

However, we have no set schedule for me picking up d8. We agreed that we will work with our schedules and allow flexibility when needed. I take my d8 every weekend, which is more than the 'normal' enforced schedule would be, but with implicitly stating between us that there may be days that one may want d8 for events, etc, because of this.

This is one of those cases, we spoke briefly about it a week or so prior, and I am fine with StBXW having her for the party. They will both have a great time!

With her email though, StBXW is waiting to see how I'll respond, no doubt, or she would state what she wants. It's an interesting position. If I go, she can say, 'see we can be friends' without actually saying anything about it, plus get me to help with a party I had nothing to do with.

I can go and just be there without helping, but that will be completely uncomfortable for all and take away from d8's b-day party.

Or, because I don't want to be around StBXW I can elect to not go, and pick her up after the party.

I am still giving it some thought, no decision yet, and thanks for your thoughts..