You've really got it down! I remember asking my T why some guys can buy a motorcyle or a sports car and that will just about do it for their crisis. She believed that the more damaged the worse the crisis. So what you're saying is that besides the 4 years your H also had those 2 extra years of working on himself. So would you say a total of 6 years?
My ex is very weak. He's always been this way I just didn't want to see it. His way of dealing and being strong was to tell me how he wanted things handled and then send me on my way to do it. I guess I lost something in the interpretation, huh?
Forward,
Have you ever read, I mean really taken time to read some of the posts on Piecing? Some of the story's are heartbreaking. I've often thought that living with a spouse who hasn't worked through their baggage would be so draining and gut wrenching. Oneday they want to be there and the next they want a divorce. Better for them to take the time then to comeback before they are ready.
How can any LBS make longterm plans or even more than that start to make a life. That's an awful lot of living in Limbo.
