I don't have an answer for you. But I guess you won't know unless you try. Maybe he will care and maybe he won't.
He would expect you to be available to pick him up, right? Do a 180. Don't you have a mani or pedi appointment that you need to get to first? Or stopping at some shops on the way to the airport. Then mosie on over to pick him up.
It is easy to tell you this, but would be very difficult for me to do.
(((Luv)))
Just do what is right for you.
Me & H: 33 yrs S: 4 & 6 D: 2 M: 9 yrs ILYBNILWY: 8/09 SEPARATED: 9/09 The Beginning
I will pick him up even though he is being so disgusting. I am gonna try my damndest to keep positive and not let him get to me - just like you guys have said.
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
if things were good in your M and this happened...what would your reaction be?
just curious. I could tell you so many stories of people like you in their sitch that would make you cringe. if you think he's disgusting now because he told you he changed his flight (and yes I know it's closer to OW, but that doesn't mean anything, you are only speculating that he could try to do something) then your going to have some real issues if or when he does something really messed up.
the more you focus on his improper behavior, the less you will be focused on his good behavior. which will translate into you not focusing on yourself and becoming the best, fun, happy you, which will translate into H becoming more miserable and doing more stupid things because he feels stuck and doesn't think the M will ever get any better...which means YOU'll be hurt even more!
don't let this happen okay? I always hear about people saying be a ducks back. this is what you have to do, his actions/comments need to roll off your back. you need to let them go. and you need to let HIM go. in order for him to come back, you need to let go, and focus on you.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Thanks ST - I am listening carefully. It's hard because it goes against my nature to let his ill behavior just go without consequence but I know I have to do it - for me.
I had a terrible night - didn't sleep at all - I feel so tired of feeling tired.
He comes in tonight and I don't want to even look at his face. I will have to act as if I'm up for an academy award because that's how hard it will be to stay upbeat.
I continue to appreciate all comments and opinions.
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
